I just had my first baby and trust me, I did all my research and I came prepared to the battle I was about to fight! Labor and delivery!
I had 9 months to prepare and I felt very equipped to face it. I watched video blogs of duolas, medical doctors, nurses, and other professionals! Name it! I’ve read articles after articles on what to expect. I learned all the medical terms necessary. I educated myself!
But even after all my preparation, I still ended up with a not so beautiful experience with childbirth. So here’s what you need to know and what I’ve learned after my delivery.
1. If you want normal delivery, stick to your plan, but be open to c section in case of emergency. Normal delivery? Ask your doctor if he/she performs episiotomy, you will need that if you have a big baby. Ask your baby’s position, if it’s possible to push your baby out with the positions he/she is in, or no? Is it futile to push? Is it safer for you to proceed with C-section instead? And if needed, do you want bikini cut? Or something else? Let your doctor know before it’s too late for you, or you’re to groggy with all the medication and pushing to decide.
2. What do I mean by stick to your plan? Write it down. What you expect for your normal delivery. If you don’t want epidural, then don’t. No matter how many people will convince you otherwise, you should stick to your plan. I wasn’t going to get one, but I got persuaded last minute because of the medical professionals who kept telling me, the contractions will be a lot more intense if I don’t get it before they break my bag of water.
3. They will tell you it’ll hurt, but you should at least try it yourself first. Check your pain tolerance before you believe what others tell you. What is painful for others might not be painful for you. And my deepest regret is I believed them, and fear got into me last minute. I should’ve listened to my gut instinct to check my pain tolerance first.
4. If you’re getting an epidural, IT CAN FAIL. With my experience, only the left side of my lower extremities got numb, for the right side to numb, it took two more shots of bolus!!! I told the anesthesiologist to stop! I’d rather just tolerate the pain rather than getting another shot and he insisted and said, “I want you comfortable.” In my head, you injecting more bolus is making me uncomfortable, but what can you do when you’re bed bound and you are already weak from all the procedures, not getting enough rest, and no food allowed. You just submit to whatever. Don’t be like me! Speak!!!! And don’t waver! Have the authority to speak your mind and tell them what you want and don’t want.
5. EAT! REST UP! They will tell you not to eat but eat! You are going to push a little human out of you and without proper nutrition and rest, you won’t be able to push that little human out of your body.
6. Only proceed with induction if it’s really a life or death situation or if it’s unhealthy for you and the baby. If not, avoid it at all cost. AVOID IT!
LET YOUR BABY DECIDE when to come out. Women are build to birth. I was induced because my baby was estimated to be 9lbs at 38th week and if we waited, he might be more than 9lbs. He was an ounce away from 9lbs at 39th week.
7. Relax! Around week 37, you would want your baby to come out! Heavy, uncomfortable, waiting is hard, and the list goes on…. But, the more you do that, the more you’ll think of changing your plan and do the easy route. And trust me, you don’t want all the crazy interventions I had to go through because I got impatient and my doctor kept telling me uneccesary things that I didn’t want to hear. She was nice and good at what she does, but I felt like she could have done better.
8. Doctor’s should not dictate you on what you should or shouldn’t do. They should only be there to guide you. I felt like I was forced into believe what my doctor thought about my pregnancy and that she was always right.
9. Make a birth plan and stick to it.
10. Educate yourself about normal delivery, c section, breastfeeding, epidural, induction, etc. Thank yourself after!
Good luck mommy!